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The fine line between menopause awareness and menopause freak-out

Is World Menopause Day creating more menopause awareness, or more opportunities to freak out?

PODCAST: Women Are The Journey – an exploration of perimenopause, business and life

When I cured my perimenopause symptoms, simply and naturally, I had no idea that what I'd learned about women's health at midlife, would end up impacting the way I show up in business and ALL areas of my life! Audrey Groeschel, from the podcast Women Are The Journey, interviewed me to explore the shift in my life that allowed me to embrace THE CHANGE in a bigger and more exciting way than I could have ever imagined. Audrey is also the founder of Goddess at the Grindstone, whe

FORGOTTEN. Brain fog, perimenopause and menopause.

In an alternative universe, at the first signs of midlife change, you’d be taken aside by a community elder and offered space. Space to rest, space for creation, space for your wisdom to come forth and nourish the community. You would be given space and a place – to build your throne. Instead, here you are, running into the supermarket and gazing at the space over the fruits and vegetables, hoping for inspiration. You remember that there were five things you needed to buy. Yo

What’s Up With Libido and Perimenopause?

There is an intelligence behind our life-cycles and a drop in our libido during perimenopause is an example of how our hormones are working

Is This Your Midlife Crisis?

Women are struggling through their 40s in an economy that still doesn't offer them equal pay, is creating downward mobility and does not

Why Live With Regret When You Can Live Without It?

I recently watched a video called Can You Really Change the World in Two Hours? It’s a talk by Mara Gleason and Michael Neill. In the video, Mara describes how she once met a man who was writing a book about acceptance. The author, after many stormy years, was finally at peace in his life. He was excited to be learning, discovering his own wisdom and writing his book. The author was also an inmate on death row. I assume from the way Mara described the man that he was sorry fo

LOVE YOUR MUFFIN TOP!

“I love your muffin top!” said no midlife woman to another, ever. At some point during midlife, your periods will stop – that’s certain. Almost as certain is that at some point between the ages of 45 and 60, you'll gain weight – yes, even if you eat well and exercise regularly. Keeping the weight we gain at midlife is not inevitable if you take massive action, however, if almost all women gain weight at this time, logic would suggest that there’s an evolutionary advantage to

Three Important Lessons For Midlife From Anita Moorjani

When in life, and especially at midlife, we have thoughts that tell us: I should be / I could have / I’ve never / I will never / I can’t … We can acknowledge those thoughts without judgement and let them pass through us. After all, when we let thought be, its nature is to move through us, 100% of the time. Instead of fearing what has been or what might be, midlife offers us a chance to open ourselves up to a future of infinite possibilities. The story of Anita Moorjani is one

Midlife dilemmas and how to solve them by finding the calm in the storm

When women are faced with a dilemma in life (no matter how big or small), I encourage them to practice an awareness of thought. One part of this practice is to pay attention to which thoughts arrive in a sea of calm, and which thoughts arrive in a storm. Through recognizing where lies the calm and where rumbles the storm, we're more likely to reach the best solution for the problem before us. We can also reduce any additional negative impact that may arise from a dilemma we'r

40-Something and Feminist? These Three Thoughts Might Be Blocking Your Path to Happiness.

Before we get acquainted with the thoughts, let’s see: You’re educated. You’re passionate. And you’ve never been afraid to call yourself a feminist. You’re well-traveled. Culturally literate. And you have at least one career under your belt. Oh, and you know that you don’t have to put up with shit, right? So what’s going on? Why aren’t you happy? Deep. Down. Happy. The crazy schedule, the washing, the deadlines, the mortgage, your aging parents…. These can be stressors for su

Midlife Mirror

What do you see in the mirror at midlife compared to decades gone by? Can you take pride in your enhanced sense of style, or is your sense of style far from enhanced? Have you created a more toned body or less? Are you a woman living with more wealth or struggling more to pay the bills? Do you hold more happiness or sadness? Do you live closer to the cutting edge of culture or further away? Are you bolder or more worried about what you should do? At midlife you could be here

40-Something Women, The Rise of Perimenopause and Why You Should Stop Blaming Your Hormones.

Many women experiencing perimenopause and menopause today were teenagers in the 1980s. Fashion wise that was an interesting time to step into womanhood. Luckily, even if you were a teenager in the 1980s, your womanly parts didn’t spring up as fast as you could insert a pair of shoulder pads into a new shirt. Your transformation from a girl to a woman took years, as it has done for women in every decade before and since. Becoming a woman is an epic production. Hormones begin

THE WISER WOMAN

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